WARNING: My language gets a little out of control in this post.
“That’s so gay.“
There’s been a recent surge in my guild of people using the term, “gay” to mean something other than “happy” or “homosexual”, and every time we call someone out on it, the protests begin. I can tell you now, I am really getting sick of repeating myself. If I have to explain to you mouth breathing morons one more time why we don’t use that word in my guild, I may actually reach through the monitor and beat the stupidity out of you.
“Come on, man, it’s not even a swear word anymore!”
If it were a swear word, I probably wouldn’t care. Anyone who has tuned into one of my streams or heard me in vent has witnessed my, err, potty mouth first hand. We’re an adult guild. Adults sometimes swear. Not at others, of course, but we’re from a country founded on convicts and I can deal with the occasional F-bomb. What I can’t deal with is people who use someone’s sexual orientation as a derogatory put down.
That’s the part that these people don’t seem to understand. Sure, we all went through school saying it, but we didn’t really understand what we were implying. We probably didn’t even know any openly gay people back then and perhaps we could hide behind our youth for our ignorance, but not anymore. We’re all big people now; we’ve had sex and we should probably at least have some idea that sexuality is an incredibly complex thing. Chances are you may even know someone who is openly gay, too. Perhaps you should ask them some time about how it feels to be continually marginalised based purely on their sexual preferences. Pretty sure they’re not going to say it’s sunshine and rainbows. You sprouting off that, “The raid leader just ninja-ed my best in slot. That’s so gay!”, is just adding to the implication that homosexuality is a bad thing.
Newsflash! It isn’t.
I suppose in a way you’re right, internet smart guy, it’s not a swear word. But it is a jerk thing to say. There are a million other words you can use to express your unhappiness at something, but that word is not one of them I will tolerate. Perhaps try expanding your rage vocabulary?
“This guild has serious authority issues now”
If by “authority issues” you mean, “Ensuring people don’t feel victimised or uncomfortable” then, yes, we’ve got a BIG PROBLEM. Someone help! These GM’s are out of control!
Seriously though, as I mentioned in the previous paragraph, I have been guilty of using “gay” as a way of expressing my unhappiness at something before. I now know better. When the guild was founded, we were rough around the edges and we let a lot of stuff slide that would not fly today. As we’ve gotten older and our play style has evolved, we’ve attracted a lot of people who are a bit more refined than our 23 year old selves were. Ignorance is uncool and our guild policies have reflected that for quite a long time.
There are people in our guild who are openly gay, and there are others who aren’t but are otherwise offended when they see it. Either way, it doesn’t matter whether or not you and I are offended by it. It’s not up to me as a guild master to tell people how they should feel, but it is up to me to ensure that people are having fun and feel comfortable reading guild chat or listening in Vent. Just because you don’t understand why they feel that way, it doesn’t change how they feel or make their opinions worthless. Even if they don’t speak out openly when you idiots blurt out unintentionally hurtful stuff, it doesn’t mean they’re staying silent. We know they feel that way, and we’re trying really hard to clean up our act.
I suspect some people may lather me with the PC label, but at this point I simply don’t give a…care. I happen to like my guild mates and I’ve been having a crack at this crazy thing called “respect” lately. That means using words that are more appropriate to the situation. The sexuality of a raid leader ninja is irrelevant. Him being a filthy scumbag, however, is completely relevant. I’m not some sort of net nanny, I am a decent human being. If not being a dick is something you are going to struggle with in future, then perhaps it’s time to look for a new home.
Ahh, it feels good to get that off my chest.
Have you ever had any run in’s trying to explain your stance on particular issues, or are you liberal with the /gkick button when people step out of line? Share your experiences in the comments below!